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MENTAL DISTRACTIONS- I cut someone off in traffic

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“I cut someone off in traffic yesterday.

I’m a good driver, but I pulled out right in front of this guy, who of course leaned on his horn… hard.

Then, as luck would have it, we pulled into the SAME store parking lot. Yay!

So I knew it was coming…

He arranged it so he would be standing in front of his vehicle as I rolled by slowly, looking for a spot to park.

There he was, middle finger in the air ( big surprise ) shoving it aggressively toward me, while yelling.

I braked, threw it into reverse, came up beside him, rolled down my window, and… just listened.

I let him rant.


That was probably the nicest thing he said in all of it.

When he was done, I said in an even tone that I have perfected for escalations at home:

‘You have a right to be pissed. I cut you off, and I’m really sorry. I’m usually a pretty good driver, but that was a really stupid mistake and I’m sorry I put us both in danger.’

He sort of stuttered, still mad, but visibly trying to process what I’d just said.

Then I said ‘Thank you for being on the ball, and saving us BOTH today with your quick reflexes.’

He literally mumbled ‘Geez, just be careful…” and he had his head down and was still adjusting to someone being kind to him… someone who he had just called every name in the book, and F bombed about 500 times in public… loudly.

It did shake me up, but not the way it did him.

I’ve found that I’m so much more prepared for the unexpected than the average person.

I’ve also learned, through my son, that everything is a teachable moment, that one should always act with grace and good intention, and that whenever possible, give someone a chance to show their best side.

And that’s what he did.

I was using my cart around the store, and all of a sudden there’s a tap on my shoulder.

It’s angry dude.

Only he isn’t angry, he’s humble.

‘You said sorry to me, but I’m the one who owes you an apology. I had a really bad morning, some bad news at work.

Thank you for reminding me that everyone makes mistakes, including me.

I acted really badly calling you names and stuff. I’m really sorry for that.’

‘Thank you,’ I said, and smiled.

Then he smiled too, we told each other ‘have a nice day’ and I think we both probably did just that.

Because we BOTH stepped out of our comfort zone to thank someone else for their actions.

And it felt… good.

My son taught me that. He has taught me patience, and grace.

He has taught me that however bad things may be at the moment, there is always something to learn from it, and a chance to do it better the next time.”

Shared with permission from Connie Manning of Autism Spectrum Disorder