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Keeping It Natural: We are Grapes on the Same Vine

by Mae Johnson

Tyler Perry said, “Build your own table so that you don’t have to keep asking someone to sit at theirs.”

When I was growing up there was something called “crabs in a bucket mentality…best described by the phrase "if I can't have it, neither can you.”   Why?  There were only so many slots to fill and only a few allowed to fill them.  The strongest won and they did what was best for their family. 

In defense of the crab in the bucket scenario, these people didn’t necessarily want to harm others, it was a matter of survival.   It is like being on a desert with ten people and one ounce of water.  Most people will drink it all, with no concern for others, in order to survive.

Today, there is no need to pull your sisters and brothers back into the crate.  because there is a free-flowing fountain of water (opportunities).   It up to you to grasp those opportunities without hindering others.

My parents lesson to me was, “everyone wants to maintain a certain level of pride; however, it is important to not tread on others to gain dignity.  In addition, it is not important to expect praise.”   That, they implied is the first steps to entrepreneurship

Let me share this with you.  One day, a donkey fell into a pit. The animal cried and screamed for hours, while his owner tried to figure out what to do. Finally, the farmer decided that since the animal was old, and the pit needed to be covered up anyway, he'll just bury the old fellow right there.  He grabbed his shovel and he started filling in the pit. The donkey cried, but it fell silent on the farmer’s ear.   Finally, donkey realized what was happening and begin to act.  As each spade full of dirt hit his back, the donkey would shake it off and take a step up on the growing mound of earth.  After a few hours of shoveling dirt, the farmer became tired and decided he needed to rest.  He hadn’t noticed that that the mound had grown high enough for the donkey to jump out of the pit.  To his amazement, the donkey stepped out and trotted away!

Moral to this story is: Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds of dirt. The point is, get out of the pit, shake it off and take a step forward.

Today, I am encouraging you to become owners…build your own enterprise.   I am also encouraging you to be the one to uplift your fellow man.  Don’t heave dirt on him/her, when they are already struggling.   You may not get the same in return, but you will be able to sleep at night, with a clean conscious.   In essence, do your best, you will be recognized.

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